Peaks Island 8-16-2013 T.OConnor
0700- arrived on the island
0800- met the ferry, fireside shift change
0900- met the ferry, checked the Welch St.. parking lot, assisted with a
run away child.
1000- met the ferry, checked the community center
1100- met the ferry, patrolled the back of the island
1200- met the ferry, patrolled
1400- met the ferry, picked up the extra officer at the boat
1500- met the ferry, checked the school area
1600- met the ferry, patrolled
1700- met the ferry, patrolled
1900- met the ferry, patrolled
2000- met the ferry, patrolled
2100- met the ferry, patrolled around the island, suspicious person call
Long point Rd.
2200- met the ferry, fire works call behind the 8th Maine, camp fire
complaint 176 Seashore Rd.
Camp fire complaint at Battery steel, broke up a party on the
Beach behind C.M.P., Car alarm call on
Pleasant av.
What Parents Can Do
Advice for Parents and
Adults About How To Deal With Bullying
A big, tough kid stops a
smaller kid on his way to school and threatens to hurt him unless he hands over
his homework. The popular girls at school won't let anyone sit at their lunch
table except their friends. These two bullying scenarios and others happen more
often than most adults realize. Seventy-four percent of eight to
11-year-olds say teasing and bullying happen at their school. But what exactly
is bullying?
Bullying is
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Fighting, threatening, name-calling, teasing, or excluding someone
repeatedly and over time
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An imbalance of power, such as size or popularity
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Physical, social, and emotional harm
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Hurting another person to get something
Many parents don't think
that bullying is as big a problem as bringing a weapon to school or
drug use but its effects can be severe and long lasting. Every day, nearly
160,000 children miss school because they are scared of bullying, according to
the National Education Association. Bullying doesn't only negatively affect its
victims, but also the bullies themselves.
Kids who are bullied are
more likely to
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Do poorly in school
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Have low self-esteem
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Be depressed
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Turn to violent behavior to protect themselves or get revenge on
their bullies
Kids who bully are more
likely to
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Do poorly in school
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Smoke and drink alcohol
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Commit crimes in the future
Parents can play a
central role to preventing bullying and stopping it when it happens. Here are a
few things you can do.
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Teach kids to solve problems without using violence and praise
them when they do.
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Give children positive feedback when they behave well to help
their build self-esteem. Help give them the self-confidence to stand up for
what they believe in.
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Ask your children about their day and listen to them talk about
school, social events, their classmates, and any problems they have.
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Take bullying seriously. Many kids are embarrassed to say they
have been bullied. You may only have one chance to step in and help.
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If you see any bullying, stop it right away, even if your child is
the one doing the bullying.
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Encourage your child to help others who need it.
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Don't bully your children or bully others in front of them. Many
times kids who are bullied at home react by bullying other kids. If your
children see you hit, ridicule, or gossip about someone else, they are also
more likely to do so themselves.
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Support bully prevention programs in your child's school. If your
school doesn't have one, consider starting one with other parents,
teachers, and concerned adults.
For more information on
bullying, read the articles below and visit the Health Resources and Services
Administration's Stop Bullying Now!
Campaign.
When Your Child Is
Bullied
Many kids are
embarrassed to be bullied and may not tell their parents or another adult right
away. If your child comes to you and asks for help with a bully, take it
seriously. Many times, if kids aren't taken seriously the first time they ask
for help, they don't ask again.
Even if your child
doesn't turn to you for help, you can watch for these warning signs that he or
she is being bullied. Kids who are bullied often experience
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Withdrawal
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A loss of friends
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A drop in grades
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A loss of interest in activities he or she previously enjoyed
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Torn clothing
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Bruises
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A need for extra money or supplies
If you think your child
is being bullied or if your child has told you that he or she is being bullied,
you can help. Parents are often the best resource to build a child's
self-confidence and teach him or her how to best solve problems. Here are
a few ways you can help
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Talk to your child's teacher about it instead of confronting the
bully's parents. If the teacher doesn't act to stop the bullying, talk to the
principal.
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Teach your child nonviolent ways to deal with bullies, like
walking away, playing with friends, or talking it out.
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Help your child act with self-confidence. With him or her,
practice walking upright, looking people in the eye, and speaking clearly.
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Don't encourage your child to fight. This could lead to him or her
getting hurt, getting in trouble, and beginning more serious problems with the
bully.
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Involve your child in activities outside of school. This way he or
she can make friends in a different social circle.
Some children seem to be
bullied all the time, while others rarely get picked on. Why do some kids
seem to attract all of the bullies? Kids who are bullied often
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Are different from other kids, whether by size, race, sexually, or
have different interests
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Seem weak, either physically or emotionally
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Are insecure
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Want approval
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Won't tell on their bullies
When Your Child Is a
Bully
It's hard for any parent
to believe that their child is a bully, but sometimes it happens. But just
because your child bullies doesn't mean that he or she will bully forever.
Parents are one of the best resources to help their child stop bullying and
start interacting positively with their classmates.
Your child may bully if,
he or she
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Lacks empathy and doesn't sympathize with others
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Values aggression
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Likes to be in charge
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Is an arrogant winner and a sore loser
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Often fights often with brothers and sisters
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Is impulsive
What you can do to stop
your child from bullying
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Take it seriously. Don't treat bullying as a passing phase. Even
if you're not worried about long-lasting effects on your child, another child
is being hurt.
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Talk to your child to find out why he or she is bullying. Often,
children bully when they feel sad, angry, lonely, or insecure and many times
major changes at home or school may bring on these feelings.
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Help build empathy for others and talk to your child about how it
feels to be bullied.
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Ask a teacher or a school counselor if your child is facing any
problems at school, such as if your child is struggling with a particular
subject or has difficulty making friends. Ask them for advice on how you and
your child can work through the problem.
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Ask yourself if someone at home is bullying your child. Often,
kids who bully are bullied themselves by a parent, family member, or another
adult.
